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It can feel scary or confusing when you are worried that a friend might not be safe. You might notice they are acting differently, spending time with someone who makes you uncomfortable, or keeping secrets that do not feel right. You do not have to figure this out on your own.
If something feels wrong, it is important to speak up. You are not getting your friend in trouble, you are helping to keep them safe.

Signs your friend might need help

Your friend might tell you something happened. Or you might notice things like:

  • they seem sad, scared, or stressed a lot of the time
  • they are getting messages or gifts from someone older
  • they are hiding their phone or online activity
  • someone is asking them to keep secrets
  • they are pulling away from friends or family.

These signs do not always mean something bad is happening, but they do mean your friend might need support.

Three most important things you should do

1. Talk to an adult you trust

This could be:

  • a parent or carer
  • a teacher
  • a school counsellor
  • a coach
  • another safe adult you trust.

You do not need to have proof. You can simply say, “I am worried about my friend and I do not know what to do.”

If you do not feel ready to talk to someone you know, you can contact a support service instead.
You can find a list of different ones on our Support Services page. Most are free, confidential, and available 24/7.

You can contact Kids Helpline anytime. It's free and confidential. 📞 1800 55 1800 💬 Live chat

2. Look after yourself

Worrying about a friend can be stressful. It is okay to feel upset, confused, or unsure.
Remember to:

  • talk to a trusted adult about how you are feeling
  • take breaks when you need to
  • reach out to a support service

Caring about someone else is important, but your own safety and wellbeing matters most.

3. Remember it is not your job to keep a secret

If someone is hurting your friend or making them uncomfortable, it is important to tell an adult, even if your friend asked you not to. Keeping them safe is more important than keeping a secret.

You are doing the right thing

Speaking up takes courage. Telling someone is one of the best ways to help your friend stay safe.